WHAT THEY WANT IS NOT ALWAYS WHAT THEY NEED

My dealing with these set of people has given me a fresh picture of life and how to deal with it. A mother who does not spend quality time with a child will always want to please the child whenever she is around to cover up for her absence, you sent your child to a school where he does not receive the discipline that you should have given to him/her if he was to be with you and any time she is back home you want to express your love by giving her all she wants. I am writing to tell you that WHAT THEY WANT IS NOT ALWAYS WHAT THEY NEED. May be we have to reconsider our style and plan how to give them a secured future which they themselves will be grateful for.

Proverbs begins with the assumption that children are born in need of correction. They enter the world with a bent toward doing the wrong things. Fathers and mothers are expected to lovingly but firmly train children in the ways of wisdom, responsibility and righteousness. The direction children receive at home especially and in school set the course for their entire lives. Train a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not turn from it. This is not a direct ticket that godly parents won’t have wayward children, but it does underscore the general principle that good parenting can have a life-long impact.

Parents who fail in their duties to discipline their children bear a heavy responsibility. Failing in the place of discipline is a gradual injection that eventually leads to a painful end which in some cases might lead to death.

He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him. Excess of it could become an abuse but children who never learn that their actions carry consequences will eventually come to even more grief.

“Omo” always have this belief that all he is doing is right because his parents have never questioned it. He is very disrespectful that teachers are finding it very difficult to correct him because the parents have refused to do their part as they should have done. Teachers having understood where his problem is coming from decided to treat these actions of “Omo” with love. He now sees life from the right perspective.

What if “Omo’s” teachers were not very patient, what if the teachers are less concern about his behavior, what if the teachers were just like the parents who does not have understanding on how to bring up a future leader. Thank God for his teachers for they made it happen.

Now what parents owe their children is not just a trip to Dubai or any place of his/her choice but love, attention, firmness and apology and stop playing the child to deceiving them like you care when you unconsciously don’t.

Act fast not by going to prayer houses but taking responsibility before we become their worst enemy which of cause I know that’s not what we all want. These are the leaders of tomorrow, our energy and strength, our precious pride for Knowledge is power.